Today, my brother talked about how not making a decision is really a decision. A decision not to make a decision. A decision to accept the status quo.
Several hours later, I turned the television on to an episode of Sex and the City. It was the episode after Carrie cheated on Aidan with Big. Carrie also talked about choices. About decisions. And how sometimes we don't want to decide because it means letting go of the other option. We're afraid to make a decision because what if we make the wrong one?
I think that's the unspoken fear of the "non-commitals" or the "commitment-phobics." What if we decide wrong? What if we choose one and he (or she) ends up being horrible to us and we have an unhappily-ever-after? At least if we didn't choose, we can't blame ourselves? Right?
Wrong. As my brother said, not making a decision is a decision. The decision to accept things as they are. But that is actually the wrong decision. Unless, of course, we are happy with the way things are. But if we were (or are), then, it wouldn't even need to be a decision. Right?
My brother gave this quote from someone by the name Larson (sorry but I'll try to get the full name from him later) as the source of his statement: "A sincere though faulty decision is better than no decision. Indeed the latter is really a decision, and often a wrong one. It is a decision that the status quo is acceptable. In most decisions the root problem is not so much in knowing what to do as in being prepared to live with the consequences."
Seven years ago, I made a decision that I wasn't prepared to make at that time. In hindsight, I made the right decision. And in further hindsight, I just wasn't prepared at that time to live with the consequences. I'm sorta wondering if I'm ready now to make another such decision.
I think I'm getting there. I definitely hope so.
Wish me luck! :)
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